Too Hot For Prom: Local Teen Kicked Out Of Formal Dance For Causing “Impure Thoughts”

by | May 13, 2014 | POLITICS

On the heels of two classy local teenagers taking a star turn on MTV’s “16 and Pregnant”, RVA has once again become internet famous for creepy lewdness, this time with a dose of pedophilia and slut shaming.


On the heels of two classy local teenagers taking a star turn on MTV’s “16 and Pregnant”, RVA has once again become internet famous for creepy lewdness, this time with a dose of pedophilia and slut shaming.

Titled “Fuck the Patriarchy,” 17-year-old homeschool student Clare Ettinger’s post on her sister’s blog Wine & Marble reveals that she was ejected from the Richmond Homeschool Prom because several “dads on the balcony above the dance floor, ogling and talking amongst themselves” said her dress was too short and that she “was going to cause the young men at the prom to think impure thoughts.” Ettinger, who describes herself as “a tall and fairly curvy girl,” said that she was the only person singled out for inappropriateness that night, despite reports from friends of other couples grinding and making out on the dance floor.

Ettinger was given a refund for her prom ticket, but her four friends whom she drove with were not, even though they had to leave with her.

“The whole situation made me feel violated, walked over and ostracized. My group of five people had to leave the prom because I stuck out; I have long legs and I was wearing a sparkly dress, I didn’t look like most of the 13-15 year old girls there, I looked like a woman. And goddamn it, I am so tired of people who abuse their power to make women feel violated and ashamed because she has an ass, or has breasts, or has long legs.”

Ettinger called on the prom organizers to refund her friend’s tickets, and “issue an apology for kicking me out of my senior prom because their husbands felt as though my body was something they had a right to control.”

“Goddamn I’m not responsible for some perverted 45 year old dad lusting after me because I have a sparkly dress on and a big ass for a teenager,” she declared. “And if you think I am, then maybe you’re part of the problem.”

How do you feel about this issue? Does it reflect attitudes in RVA as a whole? Tell us about it in the comments.

Marilyn Drew Necci

Marilyn Drew Necci

Former GayRVA editor-in-chief, RVA Magazine editor for print and web. Anxiety expert, proud trans woman, happily married.




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