Breaking The Silence: LGBTQ Veterans Share Their Truth

by | Nov 8, 2019 | QUEER RVA

This Veterans Day, Diversity Richmond will host an evening of stories from LGBTQ veterans and armed services members, in order to help create a community for current and former service members who are too often isolated.

One million LGBTQ military veterans. 80,000 LGBTQ active duty members of our armed services. But between the lingering legacy of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell and the current transgender military ban struggle, there’s an isolating and silencing effect that has made it hard for LGBTQ veterans and service members to find community. This Veterans Day, Diversity Richmond wants to change that.

Together with a variety of local support organizations including Minority Veterans of America, the Military Kid Art Project, Transgender Veteran Support Group Virginia, and more, Diversity Richmond will be hosting the city’s first LGBTQ veterans gathering on Monday night. Entitled “Our Stories, Our Truth: An LGBTQ Veterans Day Celebration,” the event is designed to encourage community by allowing LGBTQ veterans to hear each other’s stories and feel a little less alone.

“Nobody knows our issues like we know our issues,” said Diversity Richmond’s Executive Director, Bill Harrison. “Connecting with each other is the first problem to solve, because we often don’t even know how many of us exist. The program will allow LGBT vets to share their journeys and offer a candid, honest conversation about their experiences.”

The event will feature a performance from Monument City Music and a keynote speech from Trish E. King, a retired US Army soldier with over 20 years military experience. In 2015, she became the first openly transgender infantry member, and has since been an LGBTQ advocate who believes that “teams are at their best when everyone can bring their whole self to the table.”

There will also be an opportunity to hear from each other, as attendees will get the opportunity to share their own stories of being LGBTQ veterans.

“Veterans Day is a celebration of those who have worn the uniform of the United States Armed Forces, but often LGBTQ veterans feel as though they don’t belong in the veteran community,” said Minority Veterans of America Executive Director Lindsay Church. “Policies like Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell and the Military Trans Ban have made it so LGBTQ veterans and service members have constantly had to hide their identity. This event is an opportunity for LGBTQ veterans and family members to break the silence and speak our collective truth.”

“Our Stories, Our Truth” will take place at Diversity Richmond on Monday, November 11, beginning at 7 PM. It is free and open to the public, and the hosts encourage non-veterans to attend as well, in order to gain a better understanding of the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ veterans and armed services members in America today. More details about the event are available here.

Marilyn Drew Necci

Marilyn Drew Necci

Former GayRVA editor-in-chief, RVA Magazine editor for print and web. Anxiety expert, proud trans woman, happily married.



more in gayrva

REVIEW | Ducking Awesome! WitchDuck Is Smart, Sharp, and Ruthless

I am rarely speechless, especially about theatre. Since I don’t get paid if I remain silent, I will make myself criticize a play I don’t feel I have any right to judge. Gotta pay the rent, and all that. I came into this performance of WitchDuck by Cadence and...

Opinion | My Family Deserves to Exist

by Alexis Jackson I am a Black queer woman, a wife, a mother, a licensed therapist, and a doula in Virginia. And before anything else, let me be clear: my family is not outside of the norm. Love, intention, and care are not radical ideas. They are the foundation of...

Find Your Dark Art at ‘Market of the Beast’ Richmond

Market of the Beast is a dark market for all the weirdos and occult lovers who have a bit of a funny bone in them and it’s coming to Richmond Feb 7th, 2026. This handmade market specializes in all things macabre from taxidermy and bone jewelry to home decor, occult...

Richmond New Year’s Eve 2025-2026! The Ultimate Rundown

Richmond has its own way of ringing in the New Year. A little backward glance, a little chaos, and just enough polish to feel intentional. You can lean into loud live shows, dress up for something splashy, or keep it simple with a solid drink and good company. However...

The Best of RVA Magazine 2025

As we close out the year, here’s a look at some of the most impactful stories we published in 2025. Over the past year, we covered Richmond as a living system under pressure, focusing on the people, culture, and policies that shape daily life and determine who gets...